Walking around the rooms of meetings in many places, I've heard "experts" on everything from sex, psychiatry, relationships, growing plants, you name it and they all offer advice to someone to insure their ability to stay clean and sober. 

Just to add a couple pepper kernels in the salt shaker of life, I got my sobriety "between the sheets". Yes, I said it. If I had not been 13th Stepped, I don't know if I would of made it.

Sure, the old timer caught a lot of hell. We all know what young sex is so I don't need to go there today. I have over 29 years - in part thanks to the forbidden 13th step. I needed a protector. I found one within my first 60 days. Thank goodness we both made it out of that relationship alive.

Personally, I would hope not to get involved with someone new to recovery. Unless we speak the same language, its simply too much work.