Just for Today – September 11 – Bend with the Wind

“We learn to become flexible… As new things are revealed, we feel renewed.”
Basic Text, page 98

Flexibility is a powerful quality that many of us lose during active addiction. In the throes of addiction, life becomes rigid, controlled by the singular obsession with substances. The world narrows, and we become hardened, inflexible, and disconnected from the subtleties of life. However, in recovery, we rediscover the beauty of being adaptable and open to change—a flexibility that allows us to engage with life in a richer, more meaningful way.

Addiction and Rigidity

In our active addiction, flexibility was likely not a part of our vocabulary or way of life. Drugs consumed our focus, and we became obsessed with chasing fleeting moments of pleasure. Addiction created a rigid routine, where everything revolved around the next high. In this state, we became blind to the more nuanced and varied joys of life—things like connection, peace, and the simple pleasures of nature. These subtle experiences were drowned out by the singular pursuit of self-destruction.

Our addiction turned life into a constant threat—jails, institutions, and death loomed over us, feeding our sense of fear and defensiveness. To cope, we hardened ourselves, both physically and emotionally, against everything and everyone around us. This rigid approach to life, where we tried to control or resist everything, eventually led to our downfall. As the Basic Text puts it, we became brittle. Unable to adapt or face life’s winds, we crumbled under the weight of our disease, broken and defeated. In that brokenness, we surrendered.

But surrender didn’t signal the end—it was the beginning of something new. Through surrender, we found the freedom to become flexible again.

The Power of Surrender

One of the beautiful ironies of recovery is that in surrendering, we discover the very flexibility we lost in addiction. When we give up trying to control everything, we allow life to unfold in ways we never expected. In our rigid, self-destructive state, the idea of bending with life’s changes seemed impossible. Yet, recovery teaches us that surrender is not weakness—it is a path to strength and renewal.

When we stop resisting the natural flow of life, we regain the ability to bend without breaking. Life, with all its unpredictability, no longer feels like a storm we must brace against. Instead, we begin to feel its gentler breezes, its softer moments of grace. We no longer need to harden ourselves in defense. As recovery opens our hearts, we become more open to experiencing the full spectrum of life’s joys and challenges. Flexibility becomes a tool we use to embrace these experiences, rather than fear them.

Bending with Life’s Winds

Life is full of changes, big and small. Every day brings new experiences, challenges, and opportunities. In recovery, we learn how to bend with these winds of change rather than resist them. When we stay rigid, life’s inevitable ups and downs can feel overwhelming. But when we cultivate flexibility, we find that we are better equipped to handle whatever comes our way.

Bending with life’s winds doesn’t mean giving up or losing our sense of self. It means adapting to the present moment, allowing ourselves to be shaped by life’s experiences without being broken by them. We become resilient, able to face challenges with a sense of calm and openness.

As the Basic Text suggests, when we bend with the wind, we become attuned to the new fragrances and pleasures that life offers. We begin to see the subtle beauty in everyday moments—the breeze on our skin, the laughter of a friend, the peace of a quiet morning. These are the gifts of recovery, and they come to us when we allow ourselves to be flexible and open.

The Role of Flexibility in Recovery

Flexibility is not just about surviving life’s challenges; it’s also about thriving in recovery. Each moment of recovery brings new insights, new opportunities, and new lessons. If we remain open and flexible, we can embrace these changes with a sense of curiosity and wonder. Recovery itself is a constantly evolving process. What works for us today may not work tomorrow, and part of staying clean is learning to adapt to the changing needs of our spiritual and emotional growth.

As we progress through the Twelve Steps, flexibility helps us remain open to the guidance of our Higher Power. Rather than trying to control our recovery, we learn to trust the process, knowing that each step reveals something new about ourselves. The more we bend with life’s winds, the more we grow in our recovery, feeling renewed with each new discovery.

Flexibility also allows us to be more compassionate with ourselves and others. In recovery, we learn that perfection is not the goal—progress is. Being flexible means accepting that we will make mistakes, face setbacks, and encounter challenges, but that we can learn and grow from each experience. This approach fosters resilience and self-forgiveness, helping us stay grounded in our recovery even when life doesn’t go as planned.

Letting Go of Rigidity

Rigidity in recovery can manifest in many ways. We might hold onto old beliefs, cling to outdated habits, or resist changes in our lives. But this rigidity only limits our growth. To truly thrive in recovery, we must be willing to let go of the need for control and embrace the uncertainty that life brings.

Letting go of rigidity doesn’t happen overnight. It requires practice, patience, and a willingness to trust in something greater than ourselves. But each time we choose flexibility—whether by accepting a new challenge, trying a different approach, or simply letting go of the need to control—we strengthen our recovery and open ourselves to new possibilities.

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