Just for Today – December 11 – Misery is Optional

“No one is forcing us to give up our misery.”
– Basic Text, page 29

For many of us, the misery of active addiction became a familiar companion. Despite the pain, we clung to it because it was what we knew. The thought of recovery—of facing life without substances—felt overwhelming and uncertain. Yet, when we finally surrendered and chose recovery, we discovered a life far better than the misery we left behind.

Trading Familiar Misery for Recovery

Active addiction offered us a false sense of comfort. Despite the chaos, pain, and loneliness, it was familiar. The idea of letting go of that misery could feel like stepping into the unknown.

• The Illusion of Fulfillment: We convinced ourselves that our lives were fulfilling, even when they were crumbling around us.
• Fear of Change: Surrendering to recovery seemed daunting, but staying in misery felt safer.

In reality, addiction robbed us of joy, freedom, and purpose. Recovery offers us the chance to reclaim those things—if we’re willing to let go of the misery.

Misery in Recovery

Even in recovery, misery can persist if we choose to hold onto it. Some of us resist fully embracing the program, clinging to old patterns that keep us stuck.

What Keeps Misery Alive in Recovery?

1. Resisting the Steps: Avoiding the work of the Twelve Steps denies us the relief they bring.
2. Skipping Meetings: Neglecting fellowship isolates us, leaving us vulnerable to negative thinking.
3. Avoiding a Sponsor: Without guidance, we may struggle to navigate challenges effectively.

Recovery isn’t automatic—it requires effort, commitment, and willingness to change.

Choosing Freedom

The good news is that misery is optional. Recovery provides all the tools we need to trade our pain for peace and purpose. No one forces us to use these tools, but they are available whenever we’re ready.

Steps to Let Go of Misery:

• Work the Program: Commit to the steps, meetings, and sponsorship.
• Ask for Help: Reach out to others in the fellowship when you feel stuck.
• Practice Gratitude: Focus on the positives of recovery rather than the challenges.
• Surrender to Change: Trust the process, even when it feels uncomfortable.

By actively engaging in recovery, we open ourselves to a life filled with growth, connection, and joy.

The Rewards of Letting Go

When we let go of misery, we discover the incredible benefits of recovery:

• Emotional Relief: Working the steps helps us release guilt, shame, and fear.
• Meaningful Relationships: Fellowship connects us with others who understand and support us.
• Personal Growth: Recovery challenges us to become the best versions of ourselves.

Each step we take away from misery and toward recovery brings us closer to the life we’ve always wanted.